When Anger Is Costing You at Work
A single heated exchange at work can cost you a job you worked hard to get, which is reason enough to take the pattern seriously.
If your reactions at work are drawing warnings, damaging relationships with coworkers or putting your job at risk, anger management at the practice offers individual counseling built around three things: your triggers, how you regulate yourself when they hit, and the decisions you make under pressure. Sessions are available at the practice's office on South Western Avenue in Oklahoma City, or by telehealth from anywhere in Oklahoma.
On the Job
How Anger Shows Up at Work
At work, anger often looks different than it does at home. It might be a sharp reply to a supervisor, an argument with a coworker that the whole floor hears, an email sent before you cooled down, or a customer exchange that goes too far. For some people it shows up as walking off a shift or a stack of write-ups that keeps growing.
A reputation for a short fuse can follow you into reviews, promotions and references long after the moment itself is over. You may know you are making things worse while it is happening and still not stop in time. That gap between knowing and stopping is what this work goes after.
Pressures That Often Set It Off
Triggers at work are personal, but they often involve:
- Criticism or correction, especially in front of other people
- Feeling disrespected, ignored or talked down to
- Deadlines and workload that build all day with no release
- A conflict with a coworker that never gets resolved
- Treatment that feels unfair, whether or not it was meant that way
- Stress from home or money that you carry in the door with you
Getting Back in Control Before You React
Regulation is what happens in the space between the trigger and the reaction. Sessions work on noticing the physical and mental signs that your anger is climbing, and on ways to bring it down while you still have a choice about what comes next.
Those skills are built in individual sessions and tested in your actual workday through practical assignments. When a hard day happens anyway, sessions are where you talk it through openly, own your part and look at what you would do differently.
Decisions When the Stakes Are High
Work can put a lot on the line in a single moment: your paycheck, your standing with your team, sometimes your license or your career path. Decision-making in sessions is about slowing that moment down enough to weigh what a reaction will cost before you act on it.
Impulse control and personal responsibility belong to the same work. Owning a bad moment, without blaming the coworker or the boss, is part of what sessions ask of you.
How Counseling Fits Around Your Job
Free Consultation
A 20 to 30 minute conversation with no charge and no commitment, where you describe what has been happening at work in general terms.
Assessment
Set aside one to two hours. The assessment reviews your history, the behavior that concerns you, your mental health background and why you are seeking help now.
Your Schedule
Individual sessions last 45 to 60 minutes, with two a week being a frequent arrangement. The office sees clients Monday through Friday by appointment, and telehealth is available anywhere in Oklahoma.
Progress Over Time
Progress is reviewed as you go and the plan adjusts. There is no fixed timeline.
What Your Employer Does and Does Not See
Counseling conversations stay private. Nothing goes to an employer or any other referral source unless you sign consent, and the limits the law sets are explained in writing at the start of services.
If your employer has asked you to complete anger management, ask what they need before you begin. Whether they accept a particular provider is their decision, and anything the practice shares with them requires your signature first. If you use telehealth, take sessions somewhere private rather than at your workplace.
Questions From Working Adults
Is this a group class?
No. Anger work for adults happens one on one, so the time stays on your job, your triggers and your choices.
I already lost a job over my temper. Is it too late to start?
No. Anger management is for adults whose anger affects their work, their relationships or their legal standing, and a lost job is a clear sign it already has.
Does insurance cover it?
That depends on your plan. The Rates and Insurance page lists accepted plans and payment options, and benefits can be confirmed with the office.
Keep Reading
- Anger ManagementHow the practice approaches anger for adults and teens
- When Anger Is Costing You at HomeWhen your temper is straining the people closest to you
- What Happens in Anger Management CounselingTriggers, regulation and choices, laid out in order
- Telehealth or In-Person Treatment?Comparing office visits with sessions from home
- ContactPhone, office location and how to request a consultation
Get Ahead of the Next Blowup
Call (405) 205-6314 to set up a free 20 to 30 minute consultation and ask how sessions would fit into your work week. The call is free and does not commit you to anything.
Free 20 to 30 minute consultation. Monday through Friday, by appointment.